tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2566944491271358491.post2768325106600117533..comments2023-03-25T05:48:08.096-07:00Comments on Our Story . . . Our Life: A Little Mother's Guilt Is Normal . . . Right?Lindsayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14993803918514369141noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2566944491271358491.post-91954762163368561042009-07-17T21:43:19.382-07:002009-07-17T21:43:19.382-07:00p.s. Sorry so long!!!!p.s. Sorry so long!!!!Adventures in Healinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11535749998855891106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2566944491271358491.post-89358368568454810852009-07-17T21:42:55.498-07:002009-07-17T21:42:55.498-07:00First of all... you are NORMAL. Secondly, one of ...First of all... you are NORMAL. Secondly, one of the most important things you can learn as a mother is that different kids need different types of mothers. Each child you have will need to be taken care of a different way. You were the perfect mother for Gavin. And even if you don't feel it now, you are Jack's perfect mother as well. Are you still going to fall short? Probably. But that's what God is for. Seriously, I pray every single day for Heavenly Father to help me to be the kind of mother that each one of my kids needs. And they all have very different needs.<br />So you don't want to be the average girl raising a kid. I don't think you will be even if you do the average and normal things. As your time with Gavin becomes more distant you will still be attached to him. You will still have that memory of what you went through and it will still always affect the way you feel- even if it's just in how much you care. That's not a bad thing!<br />And I do disagree.... It does get better. It gets different and there's always something to worry about or stress about or lose your cool about. But I think it gets better as your kids get older and you get to know THEM better because you can be more in tune with their spirits and better able to help them. Sure, the worries get more serious...We've moved on to worrying about bullies at school and teaching about stranger danger or wondering just how serious a phobia is and if a child has an anxiety disorder. <br />I know I said that my last was my hardest... He was my fussiest and he did try my patience the most. BUT it was easier because by then I realized that you just have to let some things go. My house might have been a wreck and my kids might have watched too much tv some days. But I had a baby who needed to be held all the time and that was more than some people could ask for. That time is short. You know it. My other kids were helpful and it was good for them too. While my youngest are my most troublesome and most mischevious, I don't feel like any less of a mother. In fact, I feel a little better because I am learning to laugh more and be grateful for more in spite of the times where I literally do have to lock myself in my room for a timeout. You learn to let go and you'll get the hang of finding what works for the two of you and feeling more confident about yourself. I think you're a fantastic mother! But I do think you need to be easier on yourself- Gavin needed a certain mother that you were able to give him. Jack needs another one and you are that one as well. Remember it isn't just that you are taking care of a baby or a child- it's that you are raising one of God's children that He has trusted in YOUR care and that will grow up to be an adult doing the same thing one day as well.Adventures in Healinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11535749998855891106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2566944491271358491.post-10616414635870986712009-07-17T08:44:10.786-07:002009-07-17T08:44:10.786-07:00two totally different experiences with bring about...two totally different experiences with bring about two totally different experiences. A lot of mother's guilt is completely normal! Kids... gotta love em! :) wish they came with a manual. Lucky for Jack, Gavin's mom is his mom too.alli mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11696380622537556317noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2566944491271358491.post-4982222106541160402009-07-15T22:10:39.528-07:002009-07-15T22:10:39.528-07:00you will worry about the dumbest things for the re...you will worry about the dumbest things for the rest of your life....I feel the same way, except I feel even worse when i lose my patience because i think of people who would give anything to have sweet babies that I got so easily, and here i am wishing they would just sleep and quit crying for 2 hours so i can have some me time....its a daily struggle for me too.Brandon and Teresa Rhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10968366235833483795noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2566944491271358491.post-67074331195996589422009-07-14T16:05:21.153-07:002009-07-14T16:05:21.153-07:00I hate to tell you this but it doesn't get muc...I hate to tell you this but it doesn't get much better. The only thing that I can tell you is that it is GOOD to be worried and concerned and to wonder if you are doing the best that you can. That at least means that you are trying and that you want to do all that you can for Jack!! Good luck!Kristina Whitneynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2566944491271358491.post-40111249898378724862009-07-14T15:01:21.707-07:002009-07-14T15:01:21.707-07:00I had moments like that and still do, not to your ...I had moments like that and still do, not to your intensity because I don't think I ever had that "Mantle" but I felt like I was a good mom for my first. Then my second came and he was incredibly fussy and tried my patience. It can really be hard at times. You are doing great!Kevin and Natali McKeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13584021603363855809noreply@blogger.com