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Tuesday, November 18, 2008

An Empty Room

The nursery in our home used to look like this . . . and this . . .
. . . and now it is void of all baby stuff. It's an empty room with a lot of crap in it. I'm so tempted to bring all the stuff back and prepare for this little guy - but I think it would break me if I ever had to pack it up again.
Do I take the chance and bring the baby stuff back?
Or do I hold off and work on the room after he gets here?


11 comments:

T-Ray said...

I say get it ready for the new guy. Gavin will help too. He'll be there. I know he will.

Anonymous said...

I had to "put away" a nursery once also. You get everything ready for a new baby and then you don't bring one home. That is so hard. So, unable to bring myself to prepare a nursery again, I opted to just wait and see if my new baby was really coming home. She did and I was thrilled and exhausted to be decorating the nursery. My advice, only you know what you can handle. I was unprepared but so happy to have a new, healthy baby that I didn't care if I still had to get the crib out.

Kevin and Natali McKee said...

Jason could get it all ready while you are in the hospital if everything is okay, unless you like doing that stuff :)

Tab and Tad said...

Let your friends and family do it while you are in the hospital. Or you can wait and do it with your friends and family after He comes home. Either way you'll be circled with love and support.

Our Family said...

You should do it know and be ready!!!I am sure Gavin is going to bless this baby with good health and you should be enjoying this time!

Kajsa Farnsworth said...

I can't imagine having to put away a nursery but I can relate to the fear of the unknown. Brady was expected to come VERY early so I didn't dare put anything together. We ended up bringing home a full-term baby to a 1-bedroom apartment with nothing but a car seat, pack and play, and (thankfully) some hand me downs my sister in law gave me at the 11th hour. It was chaotic and there were numerous frantic visits to Babies R Us but it was totally fine. We were just so happy to have him home!

I know how hard it is to manage all of the complicated expectations but I know you will make the right decision for yourself and your family.

Malia said...

Linds - I agree with "anonymous" that only you know what you can handle. I can say...though I'm not to the point you are at yet and haven't actually been placed IN the situation, I've had a few years to think about this exact thing. One thing I've thought is as hard as it was to take down the nursery it was one more reminder that Ryan was here, loved, and ready to be taken care of if we'd have been given the chance. It was a reminder that the pain was real and justified. Granted, we are all praying for everything to be just perfect, your feelings are totally YOURS. I can guarantee you that this little baby is not going to care one way or the other if the nursery is done or not...so you do what feels right and it will be right.

Tiffani said...

Such good comments have already been left. Just remember, that even if he just sleeps in a pack n play for the first little while (no doubt you'll want him in your room anyway!) you will have lots of time to recover and then decorate & put the room together. As long as you can stand NOT doing it before hand, you'll be fine doing it after.

The Hutchins said...

I found this on my other cousins blog! thought you might enjoy it.... came from a book from seagull book. "...when the mother is deprived of the pleasure and joy of rearing her babe to manhood or womanhood in this life, through the hand of death, that privilege will be renewed to her her hereafter, and she will enjoy it to a fuller fruition than it would be possible for her to do here. When she does it there, it will be with certain knowledge that the results will be without failure; whereas here, the results are unknown until after we have passed the test."

Shakespear Family said...

Lindsey, I am not a great advice giver so i will just say you are one hot mama at 7 months!! Hope you are feeling well. We should get together again after thanksgiving

The Strand Family said...

We just love you so much! It's always good to be over prepared. Let me know if I can help you w/ anything :) Thinking about you.